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Acceptance & Acknowledgement in Addiction Recovery
You don't have to change everything today. Start by being honest about where you are.
Before You Begin
What brought you here today?
There's no right answer. Choose the one that feels closest.
Acceptance is one of those words that gets thrown around a lot in recovery.
But acceptance doesn't mean giving up.
It doesn't mean saying what happened was OK.
And it doesn't mean you have to like where you are.
For me, acceptance meant something much simpler:
Seeing things for what they really were.
Because once I could do that, I could finally decide what I wanted to do about them.
“You can't change what you're still trying to convince yourself isn't happening.”
Section 1
Acceptance isn't giving up.
I used to think accepting something meant surrendering to it.
It doesn't. Acceptance is looking honestly at what is happening without constantly trying to minimise it, explain it away or pretend it isn't affecting you.
You can accept: “This is hurting me.” and still decide: “I want something different.”
In fact, that is often where change begins. Acceptance gives you somewhere solid to stand.
If I'm fighting reality, I'm spending all my energy arguing with something that's already happening. When I acknowledge it, I can start deciding what comes next.
Acceptance isn't: “I give up.”
It's: “This is where I am. What am I going to do from here?”
Section 2
I know what resistance looks like.
For years I could see problems everywhere except in myself.
Alcohol.
Drugs.
Gambling.
Consequences.
Relationships.
My physical health.
My mental wellbeing.
There were plenty of signs. But seeing consequences and accepting what they meant were two very different things.
I could explain things away. I could compare myself to somebody I thought was worse. I could joke. I could tell myself I had everything under control. I could promise things would be different tomorrow.
What I struggled to do was look at my life without negotiating with the truth.
From my own story
Sometimes everybody else can see it before you can.
When I was 24, I was at a house party that had carried on long after most people had gone home. I was drinking and using heavily.
A couple I knew were leaving and I asked where they were going. One of them looked at me and said:
“I'm not staying around here to watch you die.”
And do you know what I did? I laughed. I made a joke about being bulletproof.
That's what denial can look like. Someone could tell me directly that they were frightened by what they were seeing and I still couldn't — or wouldn't — see it myself.
Things became considerably worse before they became better.
Section 3
Acknowledging something is different from changing it.
This was something I had to learn the hard way. There came a point where I knew my life was in serious trouble. But knowing wasn't enough.
I could admit things were bad and still continue doing exactly what I was doing. The change came when acknowledgement became acceptance.
I stopped asking: “Is this really that bad?” and started asking: “What is this costing me?” That was a very different question.
“The moment I stopped arguing with reality was the moment I finally had something I could work with.”
Section 4
You don't need my story to be your story.
This matters. You don't need to have experienced what I experienced. You don't need to have lost everything. You don't need a particular label. And you certainly don't need to wait until your life reaches some imaginary version of “rock bottom”.
Your starting point might simply be:
- I'm drinking more than I want to.
- I'm gambling more often.
- I'm using something to cope.
- I'm hiding things.
- My relationships are changing.
- I'm not looking after myself.
- I keep making promises to myself that I don't keep.
- Something doesn't feel right anymore.
That is enough to become curious.
Section 5
Recognition → Acceptance → Choice
Step 1
Recognition
What is actually happening?
Try to describe the situation without judgement, excuses or catastrophising. Just the facts.
Step 2
Acceptance
Can I acknowledge that this is where I am right now?
Acceptance doesn't mean liking it. It means stopping the fight with the fact that it exists.
Step 3
Choice
What do I want to do next?
The next step doesn't have to change your whole life. It just needs to move you in a direction you actually want to go.
Section 6 · A private reflection
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1. What is happening in my life right now that I may be avoiding, minimising or struggling to accept?
2. What has this been costing me?
3. What am I afraid accepting this might mean?
4. If I stopped fighting this reality for a moment, what might become possible?
Section 7
What am I resisting?
Resistance isn't always weakness. Sometimes it is fear. Sometimes we're frightened of what accepting something might mean.
- If I admit my drinking is affecting me, does that mean I can never drink again?
- If I acknowledge my gambling, what happens next?
- If I admit I'm struggling, will people judge me?
- If I accept that a relationship isn't healthy, what will I have to do?
Those are understandable questions. But acceptance doesn't require you to answer every future question today. It asks you to be honest about today.
Remember
You don't need to know the whole road.\nJust be honest about where you're standing.
Section 8
Acceptance in real life.
Instead of: “My drinking isn't that bad.”
Try: “I'm drinking more than I want to and I want to understand why.”
Instead of: “I've ruined everything.”
Try: “I've made choices I'm not proud of. What can I do next?”
Instead of: “I should be able to handle this myself.”
Try: “I'm struggling with this. Maybe support would help.”
Instead of: “I have to change everything.”
Try: “What's one thing I can change today?”
Section 9
One thing for today.
Don't leave this page with twenty promises. Choose one.
What is one thing you are willing to acknowledge today?
And what is one small action you can take?
Some examples
Closing
You don't have to like where you are
to accept where you are.
Acceptance isn't the end of the story. It's the point where you stop fighting the truth long enough to start writing what comes next.
— Mark
Founder of Empowerment
Where would you like to go next?
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